This is a common phrase which i guess everyone would have said or will be saying in one's life.The beauty lies the first time we say it.
Its a rule throughout the world that a child always depends on its parents for all his needs.Right from the childhood toys, to teenage years clothes,accessories and finally the hard cash just before the interview, a parent would cater for all the needs.Ultimately a day comes when the child becomes mature and financially independent.That day onwards the conveyor belt which had been running in one direction for 20 odd years, changes its direction.!!!! That the moment when one realises the responsibilties and thrives to fullfill it.
I too was brought up by this conveyer belt.Belonging to a middle class family, i had realised that i cannot have all the things i want esp things which demands a heavy financial outflow.Here the "things" are in sync with Maslow's hierarchy of needs(for more info refer wikipedia :) ).I had realised that though my physiological needs and safety needs were fully satiefied, my social needs took a back seat due to family conditions.I am proud to say that i did not blame anyone for it and that i had learnt to live with it and be happy. It taught me lot of things which helped me through my college years.It taught me keep my craving for fasionable clothes at bay,it taught me money managemeny(in 2004-2005 i could manage a month in Rs 200 :) ),it taught me to earn( i sponsered 50 % for my phone from money earned from part time job).Basically i realised to be contempt which watever i have and i must thank for this to my family because of the constant support i received( i know everyone family does so but just to mention it).Thats how my 20 s( till 21) went on .Mind you i was still being fed by the conveyor belt :)
A day finally came when i was a "employed youth" in one of country's biggest IT service provider.It was a euphoric moment for me then.I had my first bank account with money in it ! And i had my own debit card. Wow life was changing.Days passed and condition started changing.The conveyor belt was slowing down only to run again in the reverse direction.And then one fine day it happened.At a grocery shop, after all the purchase were made my father tried reach is wallet, i uttered "Its ok Dad.. I ll pay ". That day the conveyor started to run in reverse direction.
I now stay with my dad alone.Mom expired 2 years back and my elder brother has been away for long serving the nation.I am not a child anymore.I feel a sense of joy in paying. the house bills,buy clother for him, take him out for movies and food.Irony is people hunt for happines, they want to buy happiness but the ultimate truth is happiness lies within us.We just need to find it...................

Ya, Manish, the first time u say tat its such a nice feeling :), thankx, it brings back those memories.
ReplyDeleteHey.. good one! :) very touchy.. :) ..
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